Do you worry that a loved one is addicted to drugs or alcohol? Even worse, do you feel like you're enabling their problem by helping them instead of supporting them? There's a fine line between the two. In our last blog post, we discussed enabling and how you might be doing this without even being aware. Below, you'll find questions to ask yourself, according to NCADD.org. These questions will help you realize whether or not you're doing your loved one a dis-justice by enabling.
Are You Enabling an Addict?
- Do you continue to bail them out of jail?
- Are you always having to rescue them from some sort of issue or situation?
- Do you treat them like a child?
- Do you hold them accountable for their actions?
- Do you take care of them like a child? If so, is this an enjoyable act?
- How often do you give them money to support things you aren't aware of?
- Do you assume that this is a phase that will soon pass?
- Are you constantly hearing yourself say, "I'll give you one more chance"?
- Does the time you spend with them condone dangerous behaviors?
- Do they try to control your actions or thoughts?
- Do you try to control them?
You may be wondering how this happened. How did your loved one get involved with and addicted to drugs? According to NCADD.org, "Numerous scientific studies reveal that alcohol and drug dependence runs in families. Research conducted on twins and adopted children has shown the impact of genetics in relation to alcohol and drug dependence, and in recent years, researchers have identified numerous genes as affecting risk for dependence on alcohol and drugs. And while no specific addiction gene has been identified, a number of different genetic and biological factors make someone more or less vulnerable to becoming an addict."
Even if you are enabling your loved one's habit, it's not your fault they're addicted. We hope these questions help not only help yourself but also your loved one dealing with addiction. This situation can be difficult and oftentimes drug rehab is the only answer.
If you, or someone you know, are suffering from a substance abuse problem, it's time to get help. While it’s easy to believe that you are alone in this struggle that is the farthest thing from the truth. There are numerous people dealing with addiction in the world. Regardless of how bad drug or alcohol use has become, help is always available. Contact our substance abuse treatment centers in Charlotte NC. We are here to help you get back on track to a healthier, happier life.