Depression is a complicated, confusing disease. It leaves the sufferer struggling to function and their loved ones unsure of how to help. Many people who haven’t experienced depression don’t know how to offer support to someone who is dealing with it. They can often say the wrong things even if they mean well.
In the last blog about this disease, we talked about things to say to someone with depression that show your encouragement and support, how much you care about them and how much you want them to get better.
In this post we’ll look at some common things people say that can be hurtful and even insulting to someone dealing with depression. If you know a someone with an addiction issue, have them call Legacy Freedom of Wilmington. We offer the best alcohol treatment and drug rehab in Wilmington NC.
Things Never to Say with Someone with Depression
1. You’re just having a bad day.
Everyone has bad days now and then, but depression is something that lingers beyond a day or two, and starts to affect a person’s whole outlook. Depression isn’t caused by a bad day at work or a fight with a loved one; it’s an underlying condition that can be exacerbated by life’s stressors.
2. You don’t have a reason to be unhappy.
From the outside, it can look like a person has a great life if they have a good job, a loving family and all of the other elements that we think we need to make us happy. But having all of those things doesn’t mean a person can’t experience depression. It is a disease that affects how we think. It has nothing to do with the things we have.
3. You just need to adjust your attitude.
Depression isn’t about needing to change someone’s attitude. It’s something that hovers over your thoughts like a dark cloud no matter how much you try to think positively. If you tell someone with depression they need to look on the bright side, or “buck up” you’re insulting them by implying that their disease is not real.
4. You’re not the only one with problems.
Everyone does have problems, but not all problems are equal. You may be having difficulty at work, but you’re still able to go to work and function like a normal person. Someone with depression may not even want to get out of bed to go to work, and once he or she gets there, may not have the strength to fulfill their responsibilities. When you try to equate life’s regular problems with an uncontrollable mental disorder, you’re not comparing apples and oranges.
5. Stop feeling sorry for yourself.
A depressed person may seem to simply be wallowing in a pity party, but it is much deeper than that. Depression is not just a bad mood or a case of the blues. It’s a disease that needs to be treated by a professional.
People mean well when trying to help a loved one struggling with depression, but it’s not uncommon for them to say the wrong things. Take these into consideration when you’re talking with someone with depression. Your words mean more than you think, so try to use them to offer support, not judgment.
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