When someone you love is battling addiction, it can be painful to watch. You feel hopeless and helpless in the face of their drug or alcohol addiction. At times you may even feel like they love and need their drug of choice more than they need you. The Journal of Counseling and Clinical Psychology reports that, of the families that stage an intervention for a loved one who has an addiction to alcohol, about 75 percent are able to encourage the person to get care. If your family member needs a drug and alcohol treatment center in Raleigh NC that can be trusted, call Legacy Freedom.
Staging an intervention can be an intimidating process. It is important to carefully consider the addict's feelings when you begin to plan who will be involved and how the intervention will take place. The ultimate goal is to persuade your friend or loved one to get help with their addiction. The intervention is not the time to air personal grievances or demand apologies. Choose a comfortable location for the intervention, someplace where family and friends can feel relaxed gathering. Holding the intervention in someone's home can create negative memories in that space so consider choosing a neutral location like a conference room or a therapist's office.
When preparing for the intervention, choose the participants carefully. Only those who can offer love and motivation to the addict should be involved. Close friends, siblings, teen or adult children, spouses or partners are potentially good choices. For some families, asking a member of the clergy to be present provides a sense of comfort and calm. Professional interventionists may be hired to help guide the conversation and can help the addict and the intervening parties communicate safely and non-aggressively. Experts recommend that if your loved one has a mental illness or is prone to violent outbursts that you have a professional interventionist on hand to help with the process.
Ask those who are participating in the intervention with you to prepare a statement to share with the addict. These statements should both state the desire for the person to get help and discuss how their addiction has affected that person. Use specific instances and be open about the ways their addiction has impacted the reader emotionally, mentally, physically, or financially. Sharing this information with the addict will be difficult, so encourage each person to practice their statement before the intervention. Relying on facts and talking about personal emotions give the addict little to argue with and can help them see their addiction and behaviors from another point of view. If you're tired of searching for a drug and alcohol treatment center in Raleigh NC, call Legacy Freedom. We can help.
In the closing of your prepared statement decide what consequences the addict will face if they refuse to accept treatment. Maybe you will change your phone number, so they will be unable to call and ask for money, or perhaps you will ask them to move out or take away their ability to have contact with you or their children. Fight the urge to let anger take over and threaten the addict. These consequences are not threats. They are the direct result of them refusing to accept treatment.
Schedule the intervention for early morning when the addict is less likely to be under the influence. Approaching this situation when they have a relatively clear head and can make good decisions is critical. The timing of the intervention can be critical as well. If your loved one has recently been arrested as a result of their addiction or lost their job because of drugs or alcohol they may be more receptive to the offer of treatment. Those types of incidents remove the feeling of invincibility that many addicts feel when they are high or drunk and can make them more receptive to the request for intervention.
During the intervention, it is important to remain calm. Allow other speakers to have their own thoughts and feelings. Remember the addiction of your loved one has affected people in many different ways. They need and deserve to share their thoughts and feelings, just as you do. Respecting each other and keeping a level of calm among those who are staging the intervention sets the tone for the entire process. An intervention that begins with drama and hostility will be met with those same things from the addict when help is formally offered.
Pay attention to your body language while people are speaking and while you are speaking with the addict. Unclenching your hands, leaning in towards people when they talk, keeping your arms and legs uncrossed, making eye contact and tilting your shoulders towards the person who is speaking are all nonverbal ways that you say you are open and receptive to what the person is saying. Match your body language to the words of love and support you have prepared, not the words of hurt and sadness.
Remember that this intervention is a surprise to your loved one. They may react in a multitude of ways. Some addicts become physical and throw things. Others may scream, cry, and/or say things that aren't true or that are hurtful. Should the addict leave and refuse to listen to the statements or participate in the intervention, a professional interventionist can help the family and friends that have gathered work through their feelings and stay steadfast in their resolve to stick to the consequences they have chosen if the addict continues to use. The key to a successful intervention is preparedness and flexibility.
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At Legacy Freedom of Raleigh, we know how difficult it is to watch your loved one struggle with addiction. Our outpatient, drug and alcohol treatment center in Raleigh NC around your loved one and their needs, not the substance abuse. By working together with a Life-Purpose coach, a completely customized treatment plan will be developed and work with our dietician, physical therapist, clinicians and therapists will begin.
Through traditional one-on-one talk therapy sessions, the goal is to identify the cause of the addiction. Whether it is untreated mental illness, sexual abuse, depression, anxiety or low self-esteem, our therapy team will work to identify why the need to use exists. Legacy Freedom knows how important it is to involve friends and family in the recovery process and we offer ways for loved ones to be involved in therapeutic activities. Group therapy is designed to connect those in recovery with their peers to help them create a sober, supportive community while they are away from our facility.
Alternative therapies are also used at Legacy Freedom. We proudly offer more than 10 different and unique therapies. Together with a Life-Purpose coach, therapies will be explored and evaluated based on recovery needs and personal interests.
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