Recognizing Manipulation

Do you or someone you know feel like they’re being manipulated by an addicted loved one? If so, the realization can be quite startling. One might assume that being manipulated is just an oversight; an obvious blissful ignorance on the part of the one doing the influencing. But, it’s actually something that can happen to anyone, especially those who are dealing with an addict.

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Manipulation is a weapon used to prey on the emotions of others. It can come in various forms, including the following:

  • Apologies
  • Assumptions
  • Bribery
  • Comparing
  • Complaining
  • Emotional Blackmail
  • Excuses
  • False Concern
  • Favors
  • Flattery
  • Forgetting
  • Gifts
  • Guilt
  • Ignorance
  • Indirectness
  • Innocence
  • Lying
  • Mind Games
  • Rationalization
  • Reversals
  • Sympathy
  • Undermining

All of these things and more can be a warning sign. Manipulators are always the victim in every situation. Even if they blatantly caused the problem, someone else is to blame. They’ll never, ever take responsibility. This is why addicts become experts at influencing their relatives. Though addiction is a disease that takes rehabilitation to recover from, it is ultimately something the dependent person should take responsibility for. They rarely do.  This is also why family and friends fall for manipulation so easily. It’s hard to believe that your loved one is hurting you because of something they’re doing to themselves.

According to, "Manipulators often voice assumptions about your intentions or beliefs and then react to them as if they were true in order to justify their feelings or actions, all the while denying what you say in the conversation. They may act as if something has been agreed upon or decided when it hasn’t in order to ignore any input or objection you might have."

The website also states that the “foot-in-the-door technique is making a small request that you agree to, which is followed by the real request. It’s harder to say no, because you’ve already said yes. The reversal turns your words around to mean something you didn’t intend. When you object, manipulators turn the tables on you so that they’re the injured party. Now it’s about them and their complaints, and you’re on the defensive."

Unconditional love is sometimes mistaken for unconditional support. Families end up fixing mistakes, rescuing addicts from tough situations and chaos more than they ever though would be necessary. This is creating a whole other problem in itself.

Codependency happens when an addict’s loved one becomes “dependent” on helping them. They write it off as unconditional love, but really, it’s just the act of rescuing the addict. Once you’ve recognized that you’re only enabling their actions by fixing their mistakes, the addict will soon see that changes will need to be made.

Manipulation can take a toll on the prey. It can break us down; make us feel like we are crazy. Manipulators are always the victim. They never take blame and assume the world is out to get them.

When dealing with addiction and manipulation, things become even harder to deal with. We often find that as loved ones, we suffer just as much as the one addicted. There are ways, however, to avoid and overcome being harmfully influenced by addicts.

If you or someone you know is a victim of manipulation as a result of addiction, Legacy Freedom can help. Contact us, today to learn more.

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Do you have a friend or family member suffering from addiction? Maybe you have a substance abuse problem. Regardless of how bad drug or alcohol use has become, help is always available. You’re not alone in this. Recovery is just a phone call or visit away. Contact Legacy Freedom  to learn more about drug rehab in Charlotte NC and about our highly successful outpatient programs. We are here to help them get back on track to a healthier, happier life. Call Legacy Freedom of Charlotte today.

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