It's the new year. 2016 is finally here! People all over the United States, and the world for that matter, are celebrating and making their New Year's resolutions. A resolution is a way of setting goals to make mostly positive lifestyle changes. Every January, people set goals like finding love, saving money, losing weight, and even checking into a Columbus OH alcohol rehab center can be on some people's list. It's important to recommit yourself every year by setting healthy goals, just be aware that some resolutions are not that good for you.
In this post, the topic is going to focus on New Year's resolutions you should avoid. Rethinking them could save you from getting hurt, doing harm to your body, or creating a relapse situation. If you or a loved one needs to visit Legacy Freedom our Columbus OH alcohol rehab center and drug treatment facility is ready to answer any questions you might have. Please call Legacy Freedom of Columbus today.
These New Year's Resolutions Should Be Avoided
Winning Back Your Ex or Rushing to Get Married
For most people, especially recovering addicts, relationships are tricky. We've all had good ones and bad ones, and if you're single around the holidays, these old feelings can resurface. You might want to make a resolution to find love, or more importantly, rekindle a relationship with an ex. It might seem like a good idea at first, but you need to remember that they are your ex for a reason. Remembering all the good times is only focusing on part of the story. You're forgetting all the bad that came with the good. Do not dedicate time and energy to getting back together with an ex, instead focus that energy on you. Realize that only you can make you happy, and that this happiness has to come from within first. Fix yourself before doing anything else relationship-wise.
Rushing to get married should also be avoided. Even if you're in a loving and committed relationship, do not give your partner an ultimatum about getting married. It could backfire and end your relationship all together. Betsy Sobiech is a personal growth expert. She stated that, "Ultimatums generally put people on the defensive," and that, "The choices people make under this kind of pressure are typically not in line with the overall best decision."
Furthermore, in the 1990's there was one divorce for every two marriages. However, this number is misleading and does not mean that 50% of marriages end in divorce regardless of what you've heard time and time again. Scott M. Stanley, of the University of Denver, says that, "The assumption has been (by those who have not studied it carefully) that the 50 percent number came from someone noticing that, in the U.S., we have about 2.4 million marriages a year and 1.2 million divorces a year. Hence, 50 percent of married couples divorce."
If you need a better approach to this resolution, make a point to talk with your partner this year to determine if your core values and goals are really in line for marriage. You might want to even try couple's therapy so that you can talk with a mediator.
Exercising Too Much - Or Without a Real Routine
One of the most popular New Year's resolutions is getting more exercise. And we couldn't agree more, this is just the type of resolution you should be making - especially if you're an addict in recovery. Getting more exercise will bring forth many positive health benefits. However, getting too much exercise at once can be dangerous for your body and you could wind up injuring yourself. The last thing you need to do is to get sidelined due to an injury.
We understand that you want to start out on the right foot and put forth as much effort as possible. You want to see quick results so you can stay motivated to continue on your fitness goals. You have to resist the urge to push yourself too much by exercising too many hours each day or week. Erin Palinski-Wade, RD, a nutritionist in Hamburg, New Jersey, is a weight loss and fitness expert. She says that “If your resolution is to increase your fitness level, do so gradually,” and that “Starting a strenuous fitness routine out of the blue can lead to excessive muscle soreness and even injury (and can be taxing on your health if you have any medical conditions).” Taking time off during the week to let your muscles rest and recover will actually help you see results faster than burning your body out.
Speaking of seeing progress with your fitness goals, you should also avoid making unachievable resolutions. Saying that you're going to lose 20 pounds by the end of the month, when you've never been on a diet or exercised, does not make a lot of sense. Instead, focus on your fitness goals and break them up to smaller goals. This is a strategy all exercise experts use to keep themselves engaged and motivated. So instead of saying you're going to lose those 20 pounds this month, make a goal to lose 1 - 3 pounds a week at first. This will allow you to figure things out without getting too stressed and quitting all together.
Here's another example by Tom Griesel, the coauthor of TurboCharged. He recommends that you set a resolution to exercise 104 times over the course of entire year. This really works out to exercising only twice per week. That's a manageable goal that everyone, including recovering addicts, should be able to accomplish. This idea will help you keep a routine schedule.
A routine schedule is one of the key elements in addiction recovery, and one focusing on exercise will help you to keep your fitness goals in check. Try to fit your workouts in before work, on your lunch break, after work, and even on the weekends.
Vowing to Meditate Every Day
At our Columbus OH alcohol rehab center and drug treatment facility, we'll tell you that meditation is very beneficial for not only addicts in recovery, but for sober people as well. That being said, if you're new to this relaxing practice, avoid over-committing to it. Dedicating generous amounts of time, every day, to one task can often be a bad approach. Think about how busy your life is for a moment, if you commit to do something daily, how long will it be before something knocks you off track? The first day you miss will mean you failed at your goal, meaning you failed yourself. This can lead to negative thinking, especially for addicts in recovery, and could also trigger a relapse.
Personal growth expert Betsy Sobiech says that, "This type of goal often subconsciously reinforces a feeling of disappointment in ourselves and failure to make progress." If you want to start meditating as a New Year's resolution, that's great! Just aim for a more realistic goal. Try to meditate for just five minutes a day, 2 days a week at first. Once you get that mastered, increase your frequency to three days a week, then four, and so on until you're finally meditating every day.
Quitting Everything "Cold Turkey"
Every single person on this planet engages in bad habits that can negatively affect their health. From drugs and alcohol, smoking cigarettes, soda or coffee addictions, to not exercising, or eating only junk and sugary processed food, these examples represent only a small fraction of the things we do to ourselves to get our "fix." Lots of people vow to kick these bad habits to the curb on New Year's Eve or day only to find themselves relapsing over and over again. The reason might be associated with going "cold turkey" with all of your vices at once. If you try to quit everything at once, your body will feel the shock. Your brain's chemistry has changed to want these things that you crave so much and taking all of them away at once will only make the cravings stronger. This can lead to ultimate failure as many people cannot handle that kind of pressure.
Angeles Burke, an Aerobics and Fitness Association of America (A.F.A.A.) certified group fitness instructor, International Federation of Bodybuilding (IFBB) Bikini Pro Athlete training with IFBB Pro Shannon Dey’s Bombshell Fitness, and director of Fitness & Wellness at Celsius recommends "Trying to phase or wean yourself off of your habit in order to form new, healthier habits,” and that "Finding healthier alternatives sets you up for success rather than immediately breaking the resolution by falling back on your old habits when times get too difficult.”
As an example, instead of trying to stop smoking a pack of cigarettes a day at once, cutting back might be the best method for you. I can tell you that, from personal experience, I could never stop smoking using the "cold turkey" method. However, once I was able to figure out how many cigarettes I could cut out of my day, without making my cravings skyrocket, I was down to only smoking 4 day from a whole pack in just a couple of weeks. From there it was easy to cut out those last 4.
We hope these tips help you with your New Year's resolutions by helping you determine what you should be avoiding. For healthy new year's resolution ideas, and ones even addicts in recovery can make, check out our next blog post!
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