A narcissist uses their powerful manipulative behaviors and language to control their partner's thoughts, mind, and will. They do this to make themselves feel powerful and influential. With little regard for their victim's well-being or needs, a narcissist seeks to control their partner and get them to question their own existence and value. For those who have been in a relationship with a narcissist, or someone who meets the criteria for narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), the effects of this relationship are long lasting and potentially crippling. If you're ready to take your back you life, call Legacy for quality Raleigh mental health services.
Those who suffer from narcissist victim syndrome (NVS) are often disconnected from their own mental anguish and emotional pain as a result of conditioning by the narcissist. They believe that they are the direct cause of the narcissist's pain and misery. Reality has been distorted by the narcissist's constant demands or expectations. Using a variety of techniques, a narcissist will victimize his or her partner by using language designed to:
- Make their partner idealize them
- Fixate on their own faults and mistakes
- Ignore the narcissist's actions or make excuses for the narcissist's behavior
- Give in to the desires and wants of the narcissist
- Feel abandoned and worthless
- Breed mistrust of anyone but the narcissist
- Question their sanity, their emotions and their own value
- Disconnect from their personal needs and wants
- Doubt their own abilities and contributions
Many victims of NVS exhibit symptoms similar to those who have post traumatic stress disorder. These symptoms include:
- Flashbacks or nightmares
- Negative thoughts or feelings towards themselves and the world around them
- Isolation or detachment from friends or family
- Difficulty concentrating
- Easily startled
- Avoidance of situations or people
- Physical or emotional reactions to a reminder of the person
Surviving narcissistic abuse can leave the victim with many negative thoughts and feelings about themselves to overcome. The narcissist will exhibit no remorse for hurting or exploiting their previous partner. Inflicting pain and self-doubt is the only way a narcissist can feel in control. To a narcissist, exhibiting remorse or empathy is a sign of weakness. Victims of NVS should never expect the narcissist to admit to their behaviors or apologize for the treatment they inflicted during the relationship.
Healing the damage from being in a narcissistic relationship can take years. Many victims never recover from the abuse and are left with permanent emotional or psychological scars. Those who have endured prolonged abuse by a narcissist may find themselves codependent on the mistreatment from the narcissist and live in a fog where the mistreatment seems like a reasonable, healthy expression of love.
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