Helping Your Spouse Deal with a Relapse

Wilmington, NC Drug RehabWhen your spouse is beginning their journey towards sobriety after an addiction, it can be a long and painful path for you both. While you may feel relieved that they have agreed to receive help, it is important to remember that they are not past relapsing. In fact, many addicts relapse several times before being able to successfully stop using. Recovering from a drug or alcohol addiction is a lifelong journey. Many addicts who have not used in years still consider themselves to be actively healing. At our Wilmington, NC drug rehab and alcohol treatment center, we can will tell you that this process is different for each person.

Educating yourself on the recovery process is key. Support groups, books, podcasts, and even online blogs for spouses of addicts are a wealth of information and helpful tips. Understanding your loved one's battle with addiction can be difficult, especially if you have never battled addiction. As soon as your partner begins their recovery process, start your own. Research, find your support group, make a plan for yourself on how you will care for your own needs during this time of transition. While it is important for them to heal, it is important for you too. Having these networks and knowledge centers in place before a relapse will help you navigate this devastating setback.

Many partners and spouses make the same mistakes when their loved one relapses. Here are some tips to help you navigate this difficult time. If your spouse needs Wilmington, NC drug rehab and alcohol treatment, please call Legacy Freedom for help.

  • Remember it's not the end of the world. It may feel like all the hard work and sacrifices that you both have made for their recovery are for naught when your spouse relapses. However, this couldn't be further from the truth. While they did slip up and use, they have also admitted their mistake and are no doubt already on track towards becoming sober again. The only actions you have control over are your own, so in reality, you are powerless when it comes to their addiction. You can support, you can encourage, but you cannot make them stay sober. It may take a few tries for them to get it right, but don't give up hope that they will beat their addiction.
  • Anger solves nothing. When a relapse occurs your first reaction may be one of anger. You feel like your spouse or partner has betrayed you once again by using drugs or alcohol or that they have broken their promise of sobriety to you. In reality, letting explosive emotions take over and losing your cool with your partner is the worst thing you can do. Undoubtedly, they are already beating themselves up over their relapse. Tearing them down or making them feel guilty or ashamed will only push them further away and may make them want to use more. Instead, remain calm and encourage your partner to talk about what happened, why they used and what situation or feelings triggered the relapse. Encourage them to call their therapist or attend a group therapy session to gain the support and focus they need to return to their sobriety. If your loved one fails to respond to your supportive behavior, reach out to your own support network and focus your energy on yourself and your emotions related to this incident.
  • Stop blaming yourself. While the heartbreak of a relapse can be overwhelming for both you and the addict, it is important that you realize that the addict's relapse has nothing to do with you. Even if a fight with your spouse preceded the relapse, they still made a choice to use or to drink. It is not within your power to make them not drink or not use; it is within your power to choose how you respond to their relapse and what you do to support their return to recovery. Many addicts retaliate in anger when they have been caught using and will try to turn the blame for their relapse on to you. Know that this is not the case. It's their addiction, not yours.
  • Boost their willpower. Once your loved one is back on track, help them stick to their sobriety by engaging in sober activities with them. Go to the gym together, learn a new recipe, attend a family and friends event at their support group, or go for a drive to another town together. Showing your loved one that you are invested in their sobriety can make them feel reassured after a relapse.
  • Be sober with them. While you may not struggle with drinking or abusing drugs, making a choice not to drink around your loved one or to have alcohol in the home can help prevent those temptations to use even if beer, wine or liquor wasn't their drug of choice. Eventually, you may be able to go back to enjoying a glass of wine at dinner or have a few beers in the house for guests, but until sobriety has become the norm in your lives, everyone in the house abstains.

If you, or someone you love, are struggling with an addiction and need alcohol or drug rehab in Wilmington, Legacy Freedom can help. We are not a twelve step program. Our Wilmington, NC drug rehab and alcohol treatment plans are based on a holistic approach which treats the whole person, not just the addiction. Understanding why an addict chooses to use and what motivates their addiction is key to recovering from the addiction. Every client is assigned a Life-Purpose coach who will help them outline their care plan and begin their journey to sobriety.

Outpatient Wilmington, NC Drug Rehab And Alcohol Treatment

At Legacy Freedom of Wilmington, our care team is comprised of a therapist who will work with you one-on-one to identify the root of your addiction. Whether you use to escape painful memories, manage depression, anxiety or other mental illnesses or to cope with PTSD, your therapist will help you identify why and help you learn new ways to cope and manage the underlying causes of your addiction. In group therapy, you will have a chance to connect with your peers and form alliances that will help you maintain your sobriety outside our outpatient facility. We understand that involving friends and family in your recovery is crucial for your success and they will be invited to participate in your care as appropriate.

Addiction takes a toll on your health and your body. Together with our staff dietician and physical therapist, you will work to heal the damage of drugs and alcohol abuse through exercise and proper nutrition. Learning to care for your body instead of abusing it can be a difficult step for many of our clients.

Alternative therapies like equestrian therapy, EMDR, and inner child work are used at Legacy Freedom. Whether you need to learn how to set boundaries or have traumatic memories to overcome, our extensive alternative therapy offerings have something for everyone. Learn more about the alternative therapies we use on our blog.

Stop letting drugs or alcohol control your life. The help you need is just a call or click away! Begin your journey towards sobriety with Legacy Freedom today!

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