Did you know that being happy is a lot easier than you could ever imagine? The problem to your happiness might be staring right back at you in the mirror. All you have to do is actually choose to be happy. You're probably cursing us now, but think about it for a moment, how many times do you make a choice to get angry about something? It's really not that complicated to see that we can sometimes get in our own way and make situations more complex than they really need to be. Legacy Freedom, the leading drug and alcohol treatment center in Raleigh NC, has put together some great "food for thought" on being happy.
Don't Worry ... Be Happy
Look, you've got to stop moping around and stop making excuses for yourself to not be happy. This is just not healthy behavior and you'll feel much better about, well, everything once you decide you're going to stop being grumpy. It seems like some people just don't want to be happy, and they want everyone around them to share in their misery. If you're one of those people, then you should make today the day you change. Instead of having a negative impact on the world, try doing something nice for someone today. You might not always get it back in return, but remember - two wrongs don't make a right. Only you can control what you do and how you feel. So make the choice to start doing things that will make you smile, instead of frown.
Everyone needs help in this next area - communication. Being able to communicate in a non-threatening manner is one of the biggest keys to happiness. If you can relearn how to communicate with the other people that you interact with on a daily basis, your happiness levels will greatly increase. When you communicate your feelings and needs in a non-argumentative way, you'll get that in return as the other person should not feel the need to get defensive. Granted, sometimes an argument will happen, and maybe some arguments are justified - child care, family, money, food - but know that there is no single right, or wrong way to do pretty much anything so try to go into each serious talk without the need to "win".
Here is a great example for a closer look. If you were to catch your spouse off-guard and start a conversation with, "I think the way you baby your son is really going screw him up for the rest of his life, he'll be helpless!" you're just asking for a defensive battle of words. Your spouse's defenses would hit DEFCON 1, the conversation would get heated and emotional, and the fight would be on. Listening and being rational would be thrown out the window as these two would be having a knock-down drag-out to determine the winner and loser. We fight back when our emotional shields go up, it's in our DNA to do so.
Maybe frame the conversation better and try this instead, "I really have some concerns with the way we're raising our child and hope we can talk about it sometime soon. Do you have some time this week so we can talk?" By using this approach, you are not putting your spouse in a defensive position. You're not attacking their emotions, or catching them off-guard with a heated exchange. You're showing that you have a concern and would like to talk at their convenience. This is how you approach a serious conversation in an open minded and rational way. Show respect for their opinion, time, and be open.
Make better choices to be happy. You really control your own happiness by making better choices. Get healthy and exercise more. Start eating better foods and stop smoking. If you have a substance abuse problem, get help. All of these things will help you feel immensely happier.
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It's never too late to start living better. If you're ready to get healthy again, it starts with getting sober. Getting drugs and alcohol out of your life might be the best decision you could ever make. Call our holistic drug and alcohol treatment center in Raleigh NC, Charlotte NC, and Columbus OH. Our programs will help you get sober again.