Explaining an addiction to family or friends can seem both embarrassing and almost impossible. Maybe the conversation gets started after you have declined multiple offers to hang out with someone and they begin to notice a problem. Perhaps you’re ready for recovery and the first step in that journey begins with opening up about your addiction. Regardless of your reason for explaining your addiction, being honest, open, and willing to talk about your addiction is how recovery begins. Just because you make the decision to admit your addiction to someone, doesn’t mean you have to admit your addiction to everyone. At Legacy Freedom, we teach you how to deal with these situations. It's part of our alcohol and drug treatment in Raleigh NC, and in today's post we aim to fill you in with a few details that will help.
Start with a person you trust and are close to and continue from there. If you find it hard to start with even one person, reach out to a professional who could offer suggestions on how to begin the conversation. There are many reasons why you should explain your addiction to your loved ones and here are some tips on how to do just that.
Be honest about your addiction
Being honest about your addiction not only helps your loved ones understand, it also helps your addiction become a real thing to yourself. If you’ve already made the decision to talk to someone about your addiction you probably already realize it exists. However, do not downplay how severe your addiction is, how long it has been going on, or any of the other little details that together form the bigger picture.
Being honest with your loved one shows that you are ready for a change and ready to begin your journey to recovery. If the person (or people) you are talking to about your addiction had no previous idea it existed, this can really help them understand why you may not be able to go out with them on the weekends anymore or why they can’t insist you “just have one drink.” Being totally honest could truly give you that support system you need of someone holding you accountable if they notice you are relapsing.
Don’t feel pressure to give details
You may have a lot of regrets about things you did while you were struggling with drug or alcohol abuse. It may be a good idea to discuss those things with a counselor, people in group therapy or your mentor, but don’t feel as if you have to divulge details to loved ones when they ask. While you may owe people apologies for your behavior in the past, you do not have to feel pressured to continue talking about it. Your story is a private one, and if you don’t want to share it with anyone, you do not have to talk about it.
Do you feel pressure to explain your addiction to other people and need advice on how to cope? Don’t be afraid to get advice from a counselor, even if you’ve already completed a program. It’s never a bad decision to reach out for additional help if you need it. Call Legacy Freedom Treatment to speak with an admissions counselor about our alcohol and drug treatment in Raleigh NC.
Be open to the idea that some may not understand
Hopefully whoever you decide to talk to about your addiction will be completely understanding but there may be some who aren’t. You may get questions like “Why can’t you just stop?” “Why are you this way?” “Can’t you just have one drink with me?” Remain calm in your explanation but do not falter in your goal of recovery. There may have been people you’ve hurt while using and those people could offer the most resistance. They might not be willing to forgive you just because you’ve admitted you have a problem, hear those people out while keeping in mind everyone will not take the news in the same way but you’ve taken the first positive step by keeping an open mind and open ears towards these people.
There may be “friends” in your life that you’ve previously used with and they won’t like that you’ve admitted you have an addiction for a number of reasons. It could force them to realize they have an addiction too or they could be upset about losing someone to use with, etc. During recovery you make a lot of lifestyle changes and losing some of these people from your life will probably be one of them. Keep in mind the difference between the people who don’t understand why you can’t just have one drink and the people who want you to continue with your addiction because they aren’t ready to recover themselves.
Ask for help if you need it
Recovery is an ongoing process. You are not healed of addiction after you stop taking drugs or drinking and complete a recovery program. Addiction is something you will have to deal with every day. Some days will be easier than others, but it is an ongoing battle that you should plan to fight for the rest of your life. As times goes by, it will get easier, but sometimes you will slip up or possibly even relapse. But it does not mean you have to give up on your recovery. It is okay to ask for help if you feel you are in a place where you need help.
You can ask for support from family or friends or you can call the treatment center where you got help to see if they can offer additional help. Attending weekly group sessions can be helpful during these periods, too. Having a mentor, or someone who has been through the process, to go to can also be a great form of support when you need it, especially because he or she has been through what you have and can offer real advice on how to cope. Don’t be afraid to ask for help. Most would rather lend a hand than see you go back down the path of addiction.
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