Our drug and alcohol treatment center in Charlotte NC can help you find your independency.
“Most of us live in a state of codependence, be it with our partners, friends or social group,” according to Isha Judd, author of the books Love Has Wings and Why Walk When You Can Fly. “We let others shape our beliefs and decisions, so much so that we lose sight of who we are.”
Drug recovery is essentially a state of being independent. We are separating ourselves from the codependency of the drugs we once relied on. Our drug and alcohol treatment center in Charlotte NC understands what that's like and know that it takes time and dedication, as well as help from others, from time to time.
Below, psychcentral.com shares suggestions on how we can become more independent, step-by-step. These suggestions can help us on our road to recovery more than we realize.
Get to know yourself.
“You can’t be independent if you don’t know who you are,” according to Debra Lancer, another author of a self-help book designed to help addicts. To get to know yourself, she suggested journaling and reflecting on what happened during your day.
Ask yourself: “Did I speak my truth?” “Notice the gap between what you’re feeling inside and your words and behavior, which you show to the world.” For instance, maybe you said yes to something you really didn’t want to do, Lancer said. What can you learn from that experience?
Challenge your beliefs and assumptions.
Observe your beliefs, and be willing to question them, Judd said. “Often our opinions are so habitual that we don’t even stop to see if they reflect what we really feel: kneejerk responses simply reaffirming the past.”
Often these perspectives also are shaped by our external environments and the people around us. Re-evaluating our perceptions of ourselves and the world is key for growth, she said. “Without change, there can be no evolution.”
Becoming assertive is a powerful way to improve your life and boost your self-esteem, which in turn helps you become autonomous, said Lancer, also author of the e-books How To Speak Your Mind: Become Assertive and Set Limits and 10 Steps to Self-Esteem: The Ultimate Guide to Stop Self-Criticism.
Assertiveness is a skill you can practice. It means setting healthy boundaries, learning to say no and being clear about your needs and feelings.
For more suggestions on how to become independent during your drug recovery, be sure to visit back with us on our next post. Our drug and alcohol treatment center in Charlotte NC will have more tips that can help you live the life you want to live, free from dependency on drugs or any other habits you are trying to break.