Balancing fatherhood and all its responsibilities while holding down a full-time job is hard. When you are balancing those demands with ADD or ADHD, the balance can seem almost impossible. Whether your diagnosis is new or something you have struggled with all your life, the addition of the role of caregiver adds to the stress and the overwhelming issues that accompany being an adult with ADD/ADHD. While you are struggling to overcome your mental illness, your children are struggling to understand why you are frustrated or absent when you are with them. In this post, we will help you identify ways that you can overcome your ADD/ADHD symptoms and establish a strong and loving connection with your children.
Many fathers who have ADD/ADHD struggle with intense feelings of guilt or shame about their diagnosis. Maybe your ADD/ADHD has made it difficult to hold employment or make responsible financial decisions; these are common difficulties for adults with ADD/ADHD. Establishing a firm schedule and working to find the right medications and therapies to manage your ADD/ADHD is critical. Choosing to be involved in group therapies where you can connect with other fathers who have ADD/ADHD can be extremely helpful. If there are underlying issues associated with your ADD/ADHD like depression, anxiety, anger or substance abuse, seeking professional help is important.
At Legacy Freedom, we work with people every day who struggle with ADD/ADHD and other underlying mental illness and substance abuse problems. Our holistic approach to mental health treatment is unlike anything you have ever done before. We believe in treating the whole person, not just their ADD/ADHD and any underlying mental health needs. Your care team will work with you to form a care plan that is completely focused and centered on your needs. From addressing your physical health needs through better nutrition with our dietician, to helping your body heal and become healthy with our physical therapists, Legacy Freedom knows you are more than your diagnosis. Together with traditional one-on-one talk therapy and group therapy, your care plan can include any number of our alternative therapies as well. Whether your interests include adventure therapy, tai chi, or sound therapy our staff will help you create the perfect therapeutic mix for you.
Your ADD/ADHD can have a significant impact on the relationship that you have with your children. The most common ways that ADD/ADHD dads struggle are:
- Feeling overwhelmed when it comes to interacting with their children; especially if their child has ADD/ADHD as well
- Problems with anger management and time management
- Difficulty communicating and setting boundaries
- Inconsistency in discipline
- Keeping promises
- Overreaction to negative behaviors or boundary testing
- Inability to prioritize
- Tendency to procrastinate
Knowing where you struggle in your relationship with your children will help you identify ways you can strengthen your relationship with your kids. As difficult as it may be for you, work to keep your promises to them and show interest in activities that they enjoy. Using those activities, communicate with your children about what you like and your interests. Create time for your child and set a schedule for that time or work towards a goal together like building a model or taking a camping trip. Show your child love and give them reassurance by setting clear expectations and being consistent in your discipline of them.
Your ADD/ADHD can be managed and so can any underlying mental health or substance abuse issues. When you are ready to stop letting your ADD/ADHD control your life, Legacy Freedom is here. We invite you to learn more about our holistic approach to mental health care and about our more than 10 different types of alternative therapies. Help and healing are just a phone call away.