Thanks for joining us for part two on the things that you should know before deciding to date a person with substance abuse problems. If you're new, and missed out on part one, we discussed how being in a relationship with an addict takes a lot more than just love and the things that you should be aware of. To go back and read part one, click here.
Today's post will focus on how to be supportive, understanding of their past, and the questions that you should reflect on. For quality alcohol and drug treatment in Columbus OH, call Legacy Freedom today.
Addicts in Recovery Need Support
Dating an addict in recovery takes a special person. You have to be sensitive, discreet, understanding, patient, and empathetic. You have to have immense self control as well. For instance, you'll have to avoid drinking and other bad behaviors while your partner is in recovery; and addiction recovery lasts a lifetime. If you like to go out every weekend to bars and clubs, that will have to change. You might also find yourself leaving parties and cookouts early, and often. This is how you show support to your partner suffering from addiction. You have to figure out the types of behavior, and situations that can trigger a relapse and avoid them.
You might find that showing this level of support is a big inconvenience, but that is what it takes. You will also have to give your addicted partner the freedom to attend their weekly therapy and counseling sessions without judgement and with trust and understanding. This is even more true during stressful times and when things get harder as stress can be a big trigger for relapse.
Be understanding, and supportive and help your partner with every step of their recovery.
The Past Cannot Be Changed
Most addicts in recovery have done things in their past that they are not proud of. Some might even have a criminal record, have had to declare bankruptcy or have other financial issues because of their addiction problems. There will be shame on their side and they are probably working to repair broken relationships with family and friends that they have hurt in the past.
You must know that when dating an addict, their problems will become your problems as well. You have to be able to look past their bad history and be willing to help them move forward with recovery. If you find that your addicted partner's past is just too much for you to deal with, then you might not be the right fit for the relationship to work.
Know Yourself and Your Values
You cannot change the past, or your partner either. However, you can control yourself, your actions, and your emotions. When dating an addict, you have to be in touch with yourself, your core values, and know where your boundaries lie. Knowing what your values are, and where to draw the line will help you protect yourself from falling victim to your partner's sickness.
When dating an addict, you will have to face yourself and ask many difficult questions. You must be honest with your answers. For instance, why do you love the person? Do they treat you with love and respect and honesty? Do you have a tendency to date addicts, and why?
Without knowing these answers, you could fall into a codependent relationship and start enabling other problems.
Alternative Alcohol and Drug Treatment in Columbus OH
If you know someone with a substance abuse problem, let our drug and alcohol treatment center in Columbus OH, Legacy Freedom, help. Please call us right now and get the help you deserve. We offer fun alternative treatments, in an outpatient manner, so you can live without being held back from substance abuse.